Which Main Character Are You Right Now?

There comes a moment when you realize you’ve outgrown the version of you that once felt safe, successful, or even celebrated.

Not because she was wrong—but because you’ve changed.

You’re evolving.

And you’re ready for something more aligned.

But that moment? It can feel… disorienting.

You find yourself wondering, “Who am I if I’m no longer chasing that title, playing that role, or following that path?”

That’s why I created the Main Character Energies.

They’re five distinct energetic identities I’ve seen over and over again in women who are in the middle of growth—women who are peeling back the layers of who they thought they had to be and choosing to become who they actually are.

This isn’t about finding another box to label yourself. It’s about recognizing yourself and letting that recognition guide you to the next right rhythm, resource, or support.

You might feel a mix of a few, but more often than not, one will hit a little deeper—because it reflects the season you’re navigating right now.

Let’s walk through each one together:

The Achiever

You’ve always been the one who chased success and did it well. But now, the title, the role, or path that once defined you no longer fits, or maybe it’s gone all together.

You find yourself asking: If I’m not that, then who am I?”

You’re ready to explore a new version of success, but this time, it’s success on your own terms - that lights you up instead of leaving you drained.

→ You are ready to shift from performing for others to achieving for yourself

→ You need clarity in your identity outside the roles you’ve held before.

→ You desire a new version of success that feels authentic, energizing, + fulfilling for you.

The Pleaser

You’ve spent most of your life making others comfortable and doing what you should. Being dependable, responsible, putting others first, saying yes when you want to say no. you’ve kept the peace by staying in the lines and not rocking the boat.

Now, you’re ready to let that go. You want to find clarity in who you are that goes beyond the expectations and priorities that feels authentic + fulfilling to you.

→ You need permission and tools to uncover your own desires outside the expectations of others

→ You are ready to stop prioritizing the needs of others above your own wants + needs

The Explorer

You know who you are. And now you’re craving a life that actually reflects that.

You’ve already done the soul searching and now it’s time to apply it. You’re craving new tools, real-life structure, and rhythms that feel natural and not forced.

You’re ready to explore what alignment looks like in real time - one experiment, one step, one imperfect action at a time.

→ You’re not looking for a rigid plan and want room to grow and try what feels right.

→ You need flexible structure + support to keep moving forward even when it’s uncomfortable

→ You want to enjoy the journey of discovering more about yourself, without the pressure of reaching the finish line quickly

The Connector

You’ve embraced your path—but it feels lonely at times.

You’re confident in who you are and the life you’re building, but you deeply crave a sense of belonging. You want to be surrounded by women who get it—who understand what it means to live outside the box and want real conversations not just surface level connections.

→ You’re ready to be seen, supported and surrounded by kindred spirits

→ Being with people, in person or virtually lights you up

→ You need space where you can rise, reflect and connect without judgement

The Evolver

You’re here for the growth, the insight, the self-discovery.

You are naturally introspective and endlessly curious. You love understanding what makes you tick and uncovering new ways to feel more aligned. You don’t want a rigid system—you want options, guidance, and space to explore, without having to do all the heavy lifting on your own.

→ You want curated support and space to grow on your own terms

→ You want personal growth resources provided to you so you can spend that time doing other things you love or applying what you are learning

→You prefer resources that give space for flexibility and individuality.

Each energy holds a mirror.

Not just to who you are—but who you’re becoming.

And once you see it, you can start building support around the version of you that’s emerging.

Inside The Unconventional Woman’s Club, we go deeper into these energies with tools, coaching, and community that helps you move forward as the version of you that feels most real right now.

(And yes, you’ll probably meet all five of these women within yourself along the way.)

So tell me—which Main Character Energy are you currently in?

Hit reply and share with me. I’d love to hear your reflections.

Cheers,
Lauren

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