5 Things That Helped My Worst Year Be My Best Year

Put It Into Practice

While asking myself who I want to be helped me design my best year in the midst of my worst year, there were other outside factors that supported me along the way. When you are used to doing things on your own, it’s easy to fall into the trap that you can do everything on your own. The truth is that we all need help. When you ask for help, the weight that you have been carrying on your shoulders & in your mind become lighter - allowing you to have freedom & clarity to be who you want to be.

Here are a few of the things that helped me this year & direction on how you can connect with them as well.

1. Hiring a personal trainer who understands woman’s bodies, the necessity of balance, & focusing on small shifts over time
   Nicole Gomez is a gift to this world. I had followed her for years on instagram & then, in March, I decided to work one on one with her for 6 months. I have never approached health & fitness the way I have with Nicole. She has a thoughtful & proven way to ease into reaching your goals in a way that works for you & you alone. Follow her on instagram here.
   

2. A community that focuses on becoming the best version of you that creates more freedom & vibrancy in your life
   From April 2023-September 2024, I was a member of Brendon Burchard’s Ultra program. Everyone in Ultra was focused on becoming ultra successful in every area of their life through getting mentors, peer group and strategies we need to design our most aligned vibrant life. Having the consistency of connection & challenge each month was incredibly important & taught me how to find the people who were the real deal. The friendships I found at those in person meetings were divine. I can confidently say that I am not the same person I was when I joined. Find out more about Ultra here.
   

3. Not over thinking going back to therapy & utilizing what works best for me in the moment
   In 2017-2018, I saw a therapist for the first time. There is nothing more vulnerable than opening yourself up to someone, but there is also nothing that can get you through what’s holding you back like seeing a professional therapist. In the later half of this year, I had found myself struggling with more anxiety & having less patience than what my baseline had become. In some ways I felt like I was at the top of my game of taking care of myself, mentally physically and emotionally, but it didn’t feel like enough. There happened to be a special running through Betterhelp, that offers online counseling, & I was matched with a therapist that I felt like could help me. Therapy is hard work, & it’s oddly exhausting, but it also is one of the best ways you can take care of you. Get 2 free weeks of therapy through Betterhelp.
   

4. Morning journaling that is purposeful & sets you up for success even if things don’t go as planned
   I have always been a journaler, but it wasn’t until this year that I really started journaling with a purpose. Instead of just sitting down to write whatever came to mind, I worked through a series of prompts that helped me think about what I could get excited about for the day, who I wanted to be, who was counting on me, how to stay the course when things go wrong, & what would make me feel a sense of accomplishment at the end of the day. And it only took 5 minutes. It was amazing to me how much that changed my perspective on things that usually overwhelmed me & how much grace I gave myself when i set down the to do list. I highly recommend the Growth Day app, that gave me these journal prompts & is like having easy personal development in your back pocket.
   

5. Reading/watching/listening to stories of normal people who made unconventional choices & still had success in their area & impacted others while staying true to themselves

   This started out as something accidental. I was watching Frozen 2 (ahem - the only movie that I will make me ugly cry 100% of the time) & I was listening to the words in “Into the Unknown” & “Show Yourself” & felt a sense of feeling seen. Yes, Elsa is a cartoon character but her struggles & thoughts were so similar to mine - a desire to follow the unconventional, stay true to who I am, & fight the belief that there’s only one way to success. That prompted me to start being curious about others’ stories. Once I started looking, I found so many. John Williams, Ina Garten, Elphaba, Matthew McConaughey, Ted Lasso… Just by hearing that other people had the same struggles & same dreams & still found success gave me confidence to keep following my own path. All of these stories I find, have been compiled in my ever growing resource called The Dreamer’s Anthology, which is included in the members of The Unconventional Woman’s Club.